Mindful & Slow

Did you resonate with some of the things I talked about in the video? Does it feel like you? Then why don’t you take this short test below? In doing so, we will have some insights into your symptoms and whether or not they match with those of BPD. It’s a step closer to understanding the type of support you need to start experiencing a more meaningful life. 

Take the assessment


  • Yes: 1 point
  • No: 0 points
  1. Have any of your closest relationships been troubled by a lot of arguments or repeated breakups?
  2. Have you deliberately hurt yourself physically (for example: punched yourself, cut yourself, burned yourself)? How about made a suicide attempt?
  3. Have you had at least two other problems with impulsivity (for example: eating binges and spending sprees, drinking too much and verbal outbursts)?
  4. Have you been extremely moody?
  5. Have you felt very angry a lot of the time? How about often acted in an angry or sarcastic manner?
  6. Have you often been distrustful of other people?
  7. Have you frequently felt unreal or as if things around you were unreal?
  8. Have you chronically felt empty?
  9. Have you often felt that you had no idea of who you are or that you have no identity?
  10. Have you made desperate efforts to avoid feeling abandoned or being abandoned (for example: repeatedly called someone to reassure yourself that they still cared, begged them not to leave you, clung to them physically)?

Interpreting your score: 

0 to 4: Unlikely BPD symptoms present. 

5 to 6: Possible BPD symptoms present. 

7 to 10: Likely presence of BPD symptoms, you might want to contact a mental health provider. 

Thanks for completing the assessment, please note that these results are not a diagnosis, and if you scored high (7 to 10) you might be dealing with borderline personality disorder. Stay, because I am going to break down everything you need to know. 

Your brain and nervous system

Science and research had already proven this, but it wasn’t until I saw it in real clients that it all made sense. After years of practice and seeing many clients with the same symptoms and issues as you have today, what I know now is that when you have BPD, your brain works differently: it is on high alert all the time. Things feel more scary and stressful to you than they do to other people without it. Your fight-or-flight switch is easily tripped, and once it is on, it hijacks your rational brain for a while, triggering primitive survival instincts that aren’t always appropriate to the situation at hand. This is why sometimes your emotional reactions to life events might seem disproportionate to some people, but they make perfect sense to you, which might even make you feel misunderstood and lonely at times.  I hear you, and I completely understand the emotional turmoil you experience at times. You are not the first person I know who feels this way, and I know how difficult it can get sometimes.  But do you know the good news? You can change your brain. After learning the right techniques and strategies, I have seen dozens of clients building new pathways in their brain and reshaping its responses, and as a result: healthier ways to cope, ones that don’t leave you exhausted.  In our psychology sessions, we’ll work together to uncover the patterns that shape your everyday experiences. From the seemingly insignificant to the more pronounced, we’ll navigate through them, gradually building from the ground up. You will experience progress in small, steady doses, and after every session you will leave with a new tool to add to your toolkit. Over time, this kit will be robust enough, and equipped to tackle whatever obstacles may arise, ensuring that you’re prepared to face life with strength and clarity 

So, what can we do now?

I encourage you to take a moment, whether it’s a few minutes, hours, or however long you need, to pause and reflect. Think about the moments in your life that weigh heavy, the areas you feel stuck in, and the aspects that seem to resist change. 

Once you’ve pinpointed these areas, take a moment to delve deeper with a few questions: 

  • Is this something I want to address and improve? 
  • How do I feel about seeking professional assistance to tackle this issue? 
  • How much smoother would this journey be if guided by an expert rather than navigating it blindly on my own? 

Once you’ve asked yourself these questions, this is where I come into play. As a trained professional, I’m here to offer guidance, support and a tailored roadmap aimed at working on the very things you need to work on. Together, we’ll work towards your goals, ensuring that every stride forward is backed by expert assistance and the encouragement you need. 

 In my experience as a psychologist, the success rate of those who have seeked professional help is much higher than of those who decided to figure it all out on their own. 

Seeking help as soon as possible is key. BPD has a promising prognosis when treated, but it can be extremely challenging to manage when left unaddressed. A psychologist can provide invaluable support, offering guidance, coping strategies, and a safe space to explore and understand your experiences. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help—you deserve to feel better and to enjoy a life you experience as worth living. 

You want to start feeling better

If that’s the case, let’s embark on a transformative journey together. You will learn practical skills and knowledge that you will use to improve your own life a little every day.  

Some of the benefits you will experience from therapy sessions are: 

  1. More stability in your life, so you can stop feeling broken.
  2. The ability to start cultivating healthy, fulfilling relationships.
  3. Effective strategies for managing your difficult emotions and conflict.
  4. More confidence, less self-doubt, improved self-esteem, so you can stop feeling disconnected and lost.
  5. More fullfilment, the chance to see things in a new light and discover the world with different eyes, so you can start enjoying life fully.

My professional goal with you is that, when you look back one year from now, you can feel proud of the corageous step you took towards living a happier life, and see you’ve made it to the other side and out of the dark. 

But it starts today. 

So what is holding you back?

You know you’ve been longing for a change in your life, but you keep telling yourself it will just go away or get better. Let me tell you something: things don’t magically get better if we don’t actively work on fixing them, and you are only a click away from starting to create a happier and more meaningful life.

In this intro video call I will personally offer you:

  • A comfortable space where you can fully express yourself with a mental health professional who gets you because she’s been through (and overcome) similar issues.
  • An assessment of your current situation and specific needs.
  • Tailored feedback and a roadmap suggestion with actionable steps.
  • Insights to help you understand yourself and your issues better.
  • Answers to all the questions you might have about starting therapy with me.

I will make sure you feel seen and completely safe to talk about anything you are struggling with. It doesn’t matter how big or small you think your problem is, if it’s holding you back: I am here to help you find a way out.

I can’t wait to see you inside!

Love, Martha x

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